Today Hubby and I celebrate 18 years together!
We started out as kids. Only 16 with no plans or thoughts of our future other than us being together until the end. Even at that age, we knew that we wanted to get married, and love out our days together. We wanted to make our love a top priority.
We believe that:
- Love is important
- Love does conquer all
- Love NEVER fails
- Love is the glue
- Love keeps things in perspective
- Love is putting your spouses needs before your own
As a couple, we have gone through everything you can imagine. However, our love for each other ,and our passion to be together has kept our love on top even in our darkest days.
We’ve had to grow up as individuals considering the age of when we started dating. Trying to find ourselves, and figure out what we wanted to do with our lives. It was not easy for us to come into our own as independent human beings while trying to raise a family so young.
- We’ve had to learn how to grow, and become a team.
- How to communicate with each other with respect, and a listening ear.
- How to come together as one. Sharing our plans, our goals, and our ambitions.
- How to set healthy boundaries with each other, and learn how to love each as we are. Not trying to change each other.
In a marriage there should be sharing and oneness in every aspect of your lives (physical, emotional, intellectual, financial, social) that the resulting unity can be best described as “one flesh”.
You cannot avoid conflict because marriage is an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person. The key is to know how to handle loving that person perfectly.
I have learned to love my husband, unconditionally, regardless of the fact that he leaves his socks on the floor. Why? Because it’s just NOT that serious. I pick and choose my battles, and some things just aren’t worth the war.
As his Wife I feel it is my duty to:
- Support my husband
- Stand alongside him when I should
- Help him when he needs it
- Encourage him because WE are a TEAM
- Flatter him because he needs it
- I love doing all of those things for him. And he loves doing all of those same things for me.
Happy Wife Happy Life is said often by my hubby.
I have a husband who not only loves me as much as I love him, but also works hard to provide for me, and our kids. He believes in the old way of living where the man works, and the wife stays home with the kids. I just so happen to believe in the same thing so there was no problem there. Can’t get anymore compatible than that. However, he also believes in my happiness. As I believe in his. It’s a priority in our relationship. He wants me to be able to have the freedom to be me. Supportive and loving until the end. That’s one of the things that make him so great. He is head of household, and I respect that. But he respects me for what I do with our children, and believes in everything I do. That’s our Love! Sure we have our disagreements as any human being does. But we handle it, and move on. He is the love of my life, and I am just amazed sometimes at the unconditional love, and support that he gives me in everything that I do.
I adore my marriage. It’s a lot of work to keep things going. But then again, the best things in life are never easy.
“A marriage is only as strong as what it costs to protect it. In other words, you value what you invest in. Those who value the presicousness of their marriage will pay a high price to preserve it.” –From Boundaries In Marriage By Dr Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend